When a divorcing or separating couple has kids, the family structure that reactively emerges is often chaotic, emotionally charged and inadequate in meeting the basic needs of kids and parents alike. You may be in the midst of this situation right now, wondering how to give the kids the happy, fulfilled and nurturing childhood they deserve and maintain an active role in their lives. You also deserve the opportunity to build a new and happy life for yourself but may be struggling to see how this can happen. I’m Toby Hazlewood, founder of Divorced Lifestyle Design and a 10-year veteran of co-parenting. I have felt the upset, uncertainty and heartbreak that you are feeling now but have come through that and I’m really excited to be able to help you to understand and implement the system for successful parenting after divorce that I have formulated, based on the 12 years since my own divorce.
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Whether your parting is amicable or bitter and antagonistic you will rightly be concerned first and foremost with how to raise your kids actively and effectively, giving them the upbringing they deserve; your relationship with your ex has failed but your relationship with your kids is for all time. The biggest challenge when trying to resolve this problem is that we are flying into the unknown. Decisions are made reactively, emotionally driven and unfortunately not always with the best interests of the kids at heart. We also tend to forget that to be a happy parent requires that you are happy and fulfilled in yourself; our own needs can also be forgotten in the structures that emerge.
I am here to share with you a system that has evolved over the 12 years since my divorce, and in over 10 years of co-parenting my two daughters 50-50 with their mother. Based on a series of concise and proven principles (my Golden Rules) and combined with practical instructions, tools and strategies, my system guides you in designing, implementing, and maintaining a parenting structure for your separated family. This then gives you and your kids (and probably your ex too!) a supremely functional and effective model for a successful separated family.
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A client and now friend of mine, Gareth Locke got in touch when his wife had requested a divorce. As confusing and painful it was to accept that she no longer loved him, Gareth was resolutely against a conventional separated family and feared only seeing his 3-year-old son Henry, on alternate weekends and for occasional visits. His wife was resistant to co-parenting on grounds of not believing that Gareth could actively share the raising of Henry when balanced alongside his work. She questioned how the arrangement could work for their son, and feared being separated from him. I worked with them both, sharing the details of my system, and helped them to help themselves in understanding what was possible and how my model could be implemented in their lives. A trial period of co-parenting has been massively successful and the hurt from their parted relationship is being processed quickly and thoroughly as they all settle into the new structure. Whether co-parenting pervades or not, I know (and they know) that their commitment to raising Henry and to giving themselves the best possible future lives themselves is now built on rock solid foundations.
When I first divorced I was terrified of growing up estranged from my daughters, distant and un-loved, yearning for a greater role in their lives. I worried that I was also harming their prospects for a happy and fulfilling future. Instead, 12 years on I’m proud to share with you that I have a bond that’s as close with my daughters as any parent I know. We laugh together, work through challenges together and fundamentally have grown up together as they live exciting and accomplished lives. During this time, I’ve also accomplished lifelong personal goals in business, fitness and wellbeing and am now happily married with a blended family with 2 further kids brought into the marriage by my second wife. I attribute a great deal of this success to my system for successful parenting as part of the overall Divorced Lifestyle Design philosophy. I am inspired and excited to share this with you in order that I can help you achieve the same results as I have, starting today with a free blueprint for the Successful Parenting in separated families.
I am certain that you will experience similar results as I have.
I am certain that you will experience similar results as I have.
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